Confessions of a lesser-known Kardashian

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I started reading "The Year of Less" last weekend while I was traveling to surprise one of my best girlfriends for her birthday. While I was instantly drawn in by the writing, I found myself getting annoyed by all of the private details that the author revealed about her past issues with alcohol, among other things. Look lady, I wanted to read a book about finances. Not your personal problems.

Then it hit me: how you do anything is how you do everything. And, like the author, I have my own issues with finances. Among other things. I was getting angry because I could see myself in some of her tendencies, and it wasn't something I was ready to deal with at the moment. 

I am a naturally anxious person. Picking out a new toothpaste can cause me to have an existential crisis. Just imagine the amount of stress sweat I produce when making important decisions. Now compound that by the fact that I gave up my beloved Dove Powder Fresh a few years ago for a natural deodorant because #Oregon. I digress.

I have never been very good with money. Growing up, I always spent money or gift cards as soon as I had them. It was like they were burning a hole in my pocket. At the same time, I never felt comfortable asking my parents for things so I would rather go without or I would spend my own money to avoid the nonexistent conflict that would happen in my head. I can see now that my miser to lesser-known Kardashian to miser swings probably started young.

When I think about finances, I always seem to associate it with shame. Shame because I've spent too much. Shame over the credit card bills that I managed to rack up in college one $2.99 pizza at a time. And shame, even now, when I make smart financial choices. Who do I think I am to deserve this nice thing or a better future?

The procrastination has been extra high this month with my writing. I have started posts multiple times, and not published much of anything. 

So, dear reader (hi, hubby!) readers: I will get back at it. I will try to get back to writing and sailing toward a brighter future. Since I don't actually know anything about boating, I will finish "The Year of Less" — I hope that Cait's refreshing honesty and bravery in putting herself out there will inspire me to do the same.